SO I started a 28 day self love challenge. After feeling pretty down about things, I stumbled across this challenge. I figured, it’s February, it’s a shorter month and is filled with that damn holiday that makes single people feel like shit and attached people feel obligated to buy things. Seems like a good month to distract myself.
What I’m supposed to do before every decision is ask myself “Would a person who loves themselves do that?”
It’s a good question. So many times we engage in self-defeating behaviors but if we really took the time to ask ourselves this questions, may we wouldn’t do it as much. Sure, there’s still gonna be a chunk of times where you do the thing anyway, but maybe, just maybe, this can start to re-wire some of the stuff we do because we don’t feel worthy.
This is not all part of the challenge but this is what I have vowed to do for the next 28 days:
- Listen to Self Care Affirmation Meditation (11 minutes) every morning when I wake up instead of scrolling through my cellphone.
- Workout – 30 minutes
- Get ready for the day – shower, brush my teeth, get dressed – all the things I would do if I were going to leave somewhere. I tend to get lazy doing this while working from home.
- Protein/Meal Replacement Drink for breakfast
- Taking my damn vitamins. I forget…a lot.
- Choose healthier foods and eat when I’m hungry, not while I’m bored.
- Journal every day. I have 2 journals – 1 is for self love and the other is for bitching and complaining. I have to write in at least the Self Love journal every day, but I can also vent in the bitching & complaining journal if the day was particularly challenging.
- Keep social media to a minimum. I’m on my phone 8+ hours per day, doing what, I don’t freaking know. So I’m limiting the time.
- Celibacy – no dating or sex. I’m still allowed to masturbate because, well, I’m human and I don’t want to give that up.
Things I’ll continue to do that I’ve been doing before this challenge:
- Therapy – 1 hour weekly
- AA Meetings – 2 per week, more if necessary
- Chat with friends
- Set goals – weekly
- Get at least 7 hours of sleep per night
I’m interested to see how I feel at the end of the 28 days. I have a sneaking suspicion that I’ll feel pretty darn good. I’ve been slacking when it comes to taking care of myself. I find it a lot more simple to take care of other people and find joy in doing so – or resentment when the person doesn’t seem to care.
So now it’s time for me. For me to love myself and not worry about anyone else for a change.